(Cookie eating + smoothie + coffee drinking at the park.)
With Mother’s Day just a week and a half away, my mind has been spinning with thoughts of motherhood. One of the quotes I read recently and can’t seem to get out of my head is, “In the end, I am the only one who can give my children a happy mother who loves life” by, Janene Wolsey Baadsgaard. So true, right? I’d add that it’s also one of the best gifts we can give our kids!
So, I started taking an inventory of the days I’m feeling happier and more myself and why I think that is. Excited to share what I found along with a pics from life lately!
I’M A HAPPIER MOM WHEN…
- I’m doing things to take care of myself on a regular basis (getting ready, working out, eating well, etc.)
- I’m in community and spending daily time with God (journaling, reading, praying) and people (playdates, coffee, walks, meals, chatting, etc.). Oh, and of course date nights with your hub or friends!
- I’m getting enough sleep. I read the other day that getting good sleep makes people more happy than making more money and I totally believe it! I’m so much more playful and fun when well rested. 7 or 8 hours per night is my happy place and allows a buffer for the nights I’m up late working or one of the kids is sick. This of course is tricky with a baby bump or newborn… and sometimes even toddlers, a “sleep walking” 5 year old that climbs into bed with you, or if you have FOMO (like me!) and can’t sleep in!
- I’m able to be present! Still need to be better at this because even when my body isn’t multitasking, my mind often is. Keeping a planner where I can jot down lists, ideas, to-do’s and a plan for our day is a huge help! Love these large agendas by Ban.do and this monthly organizational set by JDC. Getting out of the house for a bit each day helps too.
- My priorities, values and goals all lineup. If I find myself getting frustrated or losing my mind, it’s usually because one or more of these things are off. On the flip side, when all 3 line up it can be a huge mood booster. For instance, if my goal is to have the kids catch the bus at 8, my priority is to encourage independence, and my value is in my relationship with my kids then letting Tilly pick out her outfit is a no brainer! It saves both of us time and energy and helps our relationship too. Although, you know I’ll be throwing out some suggestions, ha! Just can’t help myself :)
(Yummy Starbucks cookie, but we made these big batch cookies a couple days ago too!)
Made this fish taco with mango salsa recipe last Taco Tuesday and it was so yummy.
(Burning off some energy on the tennis court during Ozzie’s game last week.)
(Shoes on the wrong feet… gosh I’ll miss this stage when it’s over.)
(Weekday errands with daddy… one of the perks of being married to a firefighter :)
(The sun has been out off and on this week so it was time for us to stock our car caddy with a picnic mat, snacks, sidewalk chalk, and bubbles. Makes baseball games + park dates super easy!)
One last thought on being a happier mom… Raising good little humans is a big job. But that sense of purpose and value can often get buried under the mountain of laundry, to-dos, and tantrums and with it the joy too. So for all the mamas that could use a reminder or haven’t been told lately, you have a big, beautiful, important and hard job and your doing better than you think you are… we all are!
How do you keep your heart light and happy amid the demands of momming?
xo, Rae
Shelley
Always enjoy your posts, but this was especially fitting for me today. I’ve been feeling off and my attitude has been crummy all week. I really needed this encouragement and helpful ways to redirect myself (and get back on track!). Thank you!!
rae
Shelley, we’ve all been there! Sending love your way :) xx
Vanessa
I love the idea of noting when I feel happy and most like myself!
I’m a week away from being in my third trimester of my first pregnancy and starting my list now will really aid in trying to retain a better sense of self into motherhood.
Thank you for the advice!
rae
Vanessa, congratulations! So excited for you! xx
Pam
This is on my list to do today. Writing happy times down is a great idea. I especially feel depleted when I haven’t spent time being restored by God.
rae
Totally Pam, I agree! xoxo
Michelle
Loved this post. I needed to hear this today. Thank you! You’re doing a great job, too!
rae
:)
Thank you Michelle… xo, Rae
Claire
I agree with the others. This was such a good reminder and perfect timing!
rae
oh, good! i’m always needing reminders so glad it was helpful! xoxo