It’s one thing to have a serious conversation with someone in person on topics as heavy as school shootings, and another to just put my thoughts and ideas out there in writing and with it the responsibility and consequences (good or bad) of my words. To be honest, I’m a little nervous about sharing my thoughts, however I just can’t shake the urge to write and share and hopefully do something positive about what’s happening in our country regarding our kids and gun control.
Political positions aside, one thing I HOPE we can agree on is that what happened in Florida (and other schools) was awful and gut wrenching, and it should never have happen. Ever.
In my opinion, we have a problem with guns in this country but I also don’t think taking away guns would take away gun violence completely. So let’s save that convo for a different time and look at things from a different point of view because there’s another common thread between mass shootings. The gunman’s are boys. BOYS!!!?
As a mama of 3 of the sweetest boys, I hate this fact. However, it also gives me so much hope and here’s why… changing gun laws seems simple enough but in reality is incredibly complex (and frustrating to watch) and there is very little we can do about it on a daily basis. Changing our culture to invest and support boyhood however, seems complicated but is in fact really simple because it starts with us, our neighbors, our schools and our community and we can make a difference every single day.
That’s good news, right?! A few other things I’m believing and clinging to…
- That being quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger would change everything when dealing with conflict and challenges, but especially our effectiveness. (You guys have to listen to this message! It’s so good and highly entertaining too.)
- That gun law reform is crucial and will happen eventually (I mean, why can an 18 year old buy a gun?).
- That we are creative and resourceful enough to start a movement for the boys of this country that empowers, encourages and provides value, connection and a strong identity.
- That we can influence our culture. (If hip, hop can do it, so can we ;)
- That prayer is powerful, especially when it leads to action.
On a personal note, we’ve already had some gun related scares at Ozzie’s high school this year and next year Espen will be headed to Middle School. I’m unsure of the best way to contribute to the solution but I’m also not willing to wait for gun laws to change to do anything about the problem.
I know this is kinda heavy compared to my usually lighthearted content, and trust me that is way more in my comfort zone, but if you guys have any good resources or ideas on the topic, please share!!! There is strength in numbers and doing things together!
PS — Another great (must read) article on the subject of boys is HERE!